Creating a Climate Where Everybody is Respected

CAPTION: PBS So Cal’s Bonnie Boswell (center) met with CPAF representatives Michelle Esperanza, Development & External Relations Director (left) and Ellen Hong (right), Community Program Director.

We end CPAF’s Month of Thanks with our deep gratitude for the opportunity to talk about sexual violence in the Asian Pacific Islander community on a recent episode of PBS News Hour Weekend on PBS So Cal.

The news clip aired Sunday, November 18, 2018, and features CPAF Board Member Brittany Morey, who talks about the aftermath and healing from sexual violence, and CPAF Community Program Director Ellen Hong, who states, “We need our community to join with us. Together we can create a climate in which everybody is respected.”

View the video clip, S4 E403: Center for the Pacific Asian Family, here:

Many thanks to Brittany for sharing her experience, and to Ellen and PBSSoCal Executive Producer/Reporter Bonnie Boswell of Bonnie Boswell Reports for shedding light on sexual violence and its impact on the API community.


  • Learn more and speak up about domestic and sexual violence and help end the stigma – learn more on our website here.
  • Believe and support survivors of domestic and sexual violence.
    • If you or someone you know needs help, please call CPAF’s 24-hour multilingual crisis hotline at 1-800-339-3940.
    • Most importantly: listen to a survivor’s story without judgment and let them know that this is not their fault.  Abusers use power and control to make their partner feel like they deserve the abuse that they have been enduring. You might be the first person to tell them that no onedeserves violence and abuse.

Thank you for believing and supporting survivors of domestic and sexual violence.

Thank You!


Thank you so much for your support on #GivingTuesday – we’ve received more than $1,500 in donations to date. Thank you! We are thankful for the support as we enter the holiday season. After the shopping festivities of Black Friday and Cyber Monday, thank you for participating in giving back to the communities we serve on Giving Tuesday!
#GIvingTuesday kicks off the Season of Giving – there’s still time to donate for our year-end giving campaign to support families and survivors of domestic and sexual violence at holiday time.
Ways to give include:
Thank you for your partnership as we nurture change together.

Pay It Forward to Your Future Self


As November winds down, let’s recap your accomplishments from CPAF’s month of gratitude.

You’ve already:

  1. Voted CPAF’s mission on November 6 to help bring us closer to ending all forms of violence.
  2. Paid it forward on World Kindness Day (November 13) by doing something kind for others, and
  3. Raised awareness around male survivorship on International Men’s Day (November 19) while empowering positive male role-models in the community.

Now, we invite you to continue the festivities by participating in a self-care activity.

Celebrate what you’re thankful for by writing a letter to your future self. It’s an opportunity to reflect on the past year while thinking about future goals.

What stands out in your mind from the past year that you’re especially happy about? What goals do you want to achieve in this next year? Contemplating the future will help you take action today in order to meet your goals.

Seal the letter in an envelope, write the current date on the outside, and store it away. Open the envelope one year later and take time to reflect on your past year.

Reading the letter will let you see how your life trajectory has changed, even in just one year’s time, and will provide a different perspective about how much you’ve changed since then. You may be surprised with the responses from past-you!


#GivingTuesday – Make a Donation Toward Ending Domestic and Sexual Violence

November 27th is #GivingTuesday – a global day of giving that harnesses the collective power of individuals, communities and organizations to encourage philanthropy and to celebrate generosity worldwide. Everyone as a collective can emphasize what it means to give back together.

Following Thanksgiving and the widely recognized shopping events Black Friday and Cyber Monday, this year’s #GivingTuesday aims to inspire people to collaborate and give back to their communities to help those in need.

In this season of giving, please consider donating to Center for the Pacific Asian Family and join us in creating an Asian and Pacific Islander community that embraces healthy relationships and works in partnership with other communities to eradicate all forms of violence. Celebrate our 40-year journey, honoring those who have stood alongside survivors of domestic and sexual violence and who work tirelessly to end violence.

Ways to GIve:

3424 Wilshire Bl., Ste. 1000
Los Angeles, CA 90010

Thank you for your consideration and for your support of the families we serve.

#cpaforg #keeprising #violenceawareness #giveback #CPAFmonthofTHANKS #NationalGratitudeMonth



As we enter the holiday season, we remain thankful for your support in the movement to end domestic and sexual violence. We send warm wishes to everyone this season and express our sincere gratitude for your support of the families we serve.

If you or a loved one needs support, call our 24-hour multilingual crisis hotline at 1-800-339-3940.




It’s National Gratitude Month and we would like to express our deep gratitude to all who supported CPAF’s 40th Anniversary Gala on Friday, September 21, 2018. More than 400 participated in the celebration at the Los Angeles River Center & Gardens that raised more than $200,000 to support CPAF’s 40 years of engaging the community to end domestic and sexual violence through culturally-grounded crisis intervention and violence prevention.

  • We were delighted to have ABC7’s David Ono serve as emcee for our galaDavid Ono is the anchor for ABC7 Eyewitness News at 4pm and 6pm, the top rated newscasts in all of Los Angeles. He also anchors Eyewitness News on KDOC-TV at 7pm.
  • 40th Anniversary Chair and CPAF Board Member Erwin Pineda welcomed guests and thanked fellow committee members, including Brittany Morey, Willy Ma, and Culinary Co-Chairs Dan Fan and Elaine Chan.
  • Gala guests heard from a former CPAF resident and survivor of domestic violence, who has since earned a degree and who now works at a full-time job.
  • Scott Iseri, Board Chair for our community partner, Project MotiVAte, spoke to partnership in building healthier and safer communities, starting with youth: “…we have partnered up with CPAF in a healthy relationships curriculum, where leaders from CPAF came to our weekly study halls and provided a series of workshops, bringing awareness of the different types of domestic violence and opening a dialogue where youth can explore these ideas in a safe space.”
  • Our staff, volunteers and friends helped create a festive and supportive atmosphere with Hands of Hope Jewelry, Yasuko’s Boutique, and “Experience the CPAF Journey”, an interactive installation demonstrating initial contact a survivor might make through the hotline to the realities of living in a shelter.


Left to Right: Judy Belk, The California Wellness Foundation; 2018 Champion for Change Award Recipient Debra Nakatomi, Nakatomi & Associates; Roselma Samala, CPAF Board President; Debra Suh, CPAF Executive Director.

Judy Belk, President and CEO of The California Wellness Foundation, introduced CPAF’s 2018 Champion for Change Honoree, Debra Nakatomi, President, Nakatomi & Associates. Judy joined CPAF Board President Roselma Samala and CPAF Executive Director Debra Suh in presenting the award to community leader Debra Nakatomi for her leadership and accomplishments in building healthier and safer communities. Learn more about our honoree here.


Culinary Co-Chairs Elaine Chan and Dan Fan and their committee invited and organized 10 Culinary Partners, 4 Beverage Partners and 2 Dessert Partners. We are so thankful to our partners for donating their talent, time and energy to create an exciting culinary experience for our guests. We’ve included links below to learn more about our wonderful partners – please support them and share our thanks for their contributions!


Barbara Jean LA –

Cento Pasta Bar –

Chinese Laundry –

Daw Yee Myanmar Corner –

Joy –

Mama Musubi –

Oba –

Pearl River Delta

Sticky Rice –

The Ceviche Stop –





Chimney Coffee House –

Ketel One –

Mira Laguna Vineyard –

Three Weavers Brewery –



B Sweet Dessert Bar –

Café Dulce –



Morgan Taylor Professional Nail Lacquer –






The Inspiration band closed the event with their signature brand of dance-inducing musical entertainment. We are grateful for the group’s continuing support to CPAF, and thankful to all the great musicians and vocalists for donating their talent, time and effort to bring fun and joy to this year’s gala:

Tony Ryan – Guitarist/Vocalist

Marc Bosserman – Keyboard/Vocalist

Stan Cotey – Keyboard/Guitarist/Vocalist

Abdul Latif – Bass Player

Willy Ma – Guitarist/Vocalist

Tyler Ryan – Drummer

Bob Sullivan – Percussionist

Paul Litteral – Horn Player
Michael Mull – Horn Player
Jim Scimonetti – Saxophones/Flutes/Vocalist
Craig Kupka – Trombone Player
William F. Jordan – Lead Vocalist
Casey Chong – Vocalist







Janice & Wade Oshiro



Bank of America

CCL Holdings Ltd.

CPAF Legacy

Daren Mooko & San Tong

Debra Nakatomi & Bob Miyamoto

Downtown Properties Management Services, Inc.

Friends of Debra Nakatomi


Ho-Sheng Lin & Fernanda Lin

The J. Morey Company

Judy Lam

Kaiser Permanente


Los Angeles County Supervisor Mark Ridley-Thomas

Nakatomi & Associates

Nossaman LLP


Song Law Group

TRI Construction, Inc.



Alan & Yvonne Nishio

Asian Americans Advancing Justice – Los Angeles

Code Particle

Daniel Fan

Debra Suh & Robin Toma

Esperanza & Mitchell

First 5 LA

Jane & David Cole

Joann & Dan Lee

Lisa & Ed Pai and Friends

LKP Global Law, LLP

May Ma & Patrick Ross

Naomi Uyeda

Open Bank

Peace Over Violence/ Friends of Debra Nakatomi

Rebecca & Eric Lee

Roselma Samala

Universal Cargo

AMBASSADOR SPONSORS Caroline Choe & Jin Chun

Grace Whitcomb

Jay J. Chung

Ken Raphael

Korean American Bar Association of Southern California

Lawrence Lee

Linh Ma

Little Tokyo Service Center

Maribeth Annaguey

Rose Cheung

November is time to Pay It Forward!

November is a month celebrating many things, including Thanksgiving, peanut butter, sleep comfort, and world peace. However, we here at CPAF have decided to focus on paying it forward, showing acts of kindness and appreciation to those around us and in our community. So, for the next few weeks we encourage you to join us by doing the following:

  1. Go out and vote today! Your contribution is so important to everyone in the community.
  2. November 13th is World Kindness Day – show a little love and appreciation by doing something kind for those around you, like writing a Love Letter to a Survivor!
  3. International Men’s Day is November 19th. Let’s raise awareness of men’s well-being and the positive male role-models in our lives.
  4. Lastly, to close out the month why not give yourself some love by doing some self-care and writing a letter to your future self. Open the letter one year from the day you wrote it to see how far you’ve come!


Stand up, speak up with immigrants!

In September, the Trump Administration proposed changes to a Department of Homeland Security (DHS) regulation expanding the definition of “public charge” and putting immigrant families, including children, at risk if they use public benefits programs.

On October 10th, the Federal Government officially published the proposed changes, starting the formal 60-day comment period for the public to provide feedback before they can be finalized.

CPAF shares the concerns of families, communities, and organizations around the country about the DHS’s proposed changes to the “public charge” regulations. These changes exacerbate existing barriers and create new ones, preventing immigrant survivors of domestic and sexual violence from accessing essential services and safety nets.

Below is some basic information taken from resources put out by Asian Pacific Institute on Gender Based Violence, Protect Immigrant Families (PIF), the Center for Law and Social Policy (CLASP), and the National Immigration Law Center (NILC).

The proposed changes would impact Lawful Permanent Residents (LPR), Visa Seekers, and Green Card Holders. The possible changes will affect people who are applying to be Lawful Permanent Residents and applying for a visa into the country or adjusting their visa status, or who are LPRs but have been out of the country for more than 6 months and are seeking to come back to the U.S. This excludes T-visa and U-visa applicants/holders.

Under the proposed rule, benefits counted against immigrants include:

  • SNAP, known in California as CalFresh
  • SSI
  • TANF, known in California as CalWorks
  • State/local cash benefit programs for income maintenance
  • Other federal benefits programs for the purpose of income maintenance
  • Medicaid (known in California as MediCal), but not emergency Medicaid, or Medicaid benefits received by foreign-born children who will derive citizenship from their U.S. citizen parents.
  • Medicare Part D Low Income Subsidy
  • Benefits provided for long-term care
  • Section 8 Housing Choice Voucher Program
  • Section 8 Project-Based Rental Assistance
  • Public Housing
  • Any federal, state, county or city benefit program that is not specifically exempted

For more details and for information provided in API languages please check out:






What can you do?

Federal law requires DHS to open a way for the public to review the changes and submit comments. DHS has to review and respond to the comments before it publishes a fi­nal rule. Join CPAF in letting DHS know that the rule would be harmful to you, your family, and your community.

Share this information with your network, your neighbors, and your family so that they are informed about how the proposed changes might affect them and how they can speak out against the changes. Now is the time to make your voice heard! If you do not want to include any personal information, you can ask a friend to submit a comment for you.

There are several ways to submit a comment to DHS:



Maya and Layla’s Ghost Buddy Store


This October, CPAF supporters, Maya and Layla, are continuing their tradition of hosting a Halloween Store selling homemade handicrafts to benefit CPAF, a project that Maya started back in 2015. Maya sent in the letter (above) with the first donation she fundraised in 2016. They inspire us with their passion and creativity, so we decided to sit down with Maya to talk about the project. 


CPAF: Why did you choose to support CPAF?
MAYA: When I was in second grade I came home and decided I wanted to open up a shop. My dad asked me what I wanted to do with the money, and I decided I wanted to donate it to a charity, and CPAF seemed like the best option.
CPAF: How did you come up with the idea to make ghosts and tombstones and bats and how did you learn to make them?
MAYA: About a year earlier we sewed a Halloween sock kitten for my sister, so we decided to do a Halloween sale on stuffed ghosts. The second year we decided to do stuffed bats and wooden tombstones. The special thing about our bats and ghosts is that no two are the same! (And they come with a jolly rancher!) We didn’t take any classes on sewing, and we pretty much learned ourselves.
CPAF: What was the best part of running the Halloween Shop?
MAYA: My favorite part is selling them and assembling the shop, although creating them is fun, too. My favorite part of creating them is making the expressions.
CPAF: Do you have any words of encouragement for other young people who want to get involved?
MAYA: If you want to help CPAF, you can start a shop like we did, or raise money in your own way. It’s a lot of work, but it’s fun and worth it!
CPAF: One of CPAF’s goals is to build violence-free communities, what does it mean for a community to be free of violence?
MAYA: When a community is free of violence, it means that people are safer and happier. Younger people will have better examples, and won’t be afraid of their parents.


Thanks, Maya and Layla, for using your creative talents to benefit CPAF and to make a change in your community! CPAF is fortunate to have volunteers and supporters who find so many different ways to use their time and talents to serve clients, reach out to their communities, and raise financial support. If you’re inspired to plan your own fundraising activity, please let us know so we can share your event.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month!  This is a moment in history in which it is especially crucial to stand in solidarity with survivors of violence.  Join CPAF in raising awareness and supporting survivors all month long.

You can add your voice to ours through our “DV Matters Because” campaign:

  1. Print the template, available in 15 languages below
  2. Write a brief message about why domestic violence is an issue that matters
  3. Take a picture of the message, or of you holding the message
  4. Post the picture to Facebook and/or Instagram
  5. Tag @cpaforg and use #dvmattersbecause



DV Matters Because” templates: